Wednesday, October 31, 2012

The Cute and the Not So Cute

Potty training this child was pretty funny we had to get pictures of him.
a picture speaks a thousand words.


Now for the not so cute. Helping traumatized children can be a roller coaster ride. They have many ups and downs in the process of healing and growth. Right now we have a few in the challenging stage. It seems like one likes to live his life there but that is a novel that will never be written. How these downs look and act are not so bad, it's just that it gets tiring especially when you live dancing on egg shells. One of the children cries at the top of their lungs when they don't get their way. They will stomp off waving their arms up and down hitting their sides, hides in the corner and cries the cry of a deep mourn or falls asleep. Sadly the falling asleep happens around 5:00pm so that just doesn't work. This happens about 10 times a day.

Another child doesn't like to be corrected even if it's with a smile and loving words. They will fold their arms hard, stomp off to the stairs, sit cross legged, arms folded with head bowed. They will sit there moaning and groaning and work into a cry if we don't notice and interfere. When asked what's wrong they will say that someone is mad at them. That someone is the person that corrected them, with a smile. This too happens many times a day.

Another child is ultra sensitive! I have to watch everything I say and how it is said or offense will be taken and walls will be built.

It is an emotional stew around here. Many emotions being stirred up and swirling around waiting to be served. We get large helpings dished out daily. Many of the children are struggling with one thing or another. One of the kids gets out of the van for school teary most days. You would think we were in the middle of an adoption or something. Maybe we are.

Next post, very great news. More good news to come later. OH, so much happens at our house.


  1. Oh yes! I understand what you are going through 100%. Hang in there.

  2. My email address is ninegumdrops at yahoo dot com. :-)

  3. I was one of those little children going through the process of being adopted and my mother was an angel! Keep being strong and amazing. They will never forget!

    1. Thanks for the encouragement. I would love to hear some of your story of adjustments and get some advice. It's nice to get the other perspective. I've only been the mom not the adopted child.